Lend an ear. Change a life.
Tips from Professionals
Karl gives his personal and professional advice on talking to a young person with depression.
Andrea shares what to say and do when speaking with youth dealing with alcohol abuse.
Robin provides guidance on starting the conversation about recreational or prescription drug abuse.
Jessica discusses how to reach out to someone who is expressing thoughts of suicide or who is thinking about suicide.
Advice from other trusted people
Narda was there when her daughter needed her most – now they are going through the journey together.
Adam helped a friend turn his life around by giving honest advice without judgement.
Just by being available to listen, Jim helped a young student through a very difficult time.
Know the warning signs.
Depression and suicide:
- Acting sad or hopeless for more than two weeks
- Losing interest in favorite activities
- Isolated from friends and family
- Change in eating habits—either no appetite or overeating
- Unexplained fatigue
- Problems concentrating at school or work
- Problems sleeping
- Recently gone through a stressful event like a break up
- Talking frequently about death or self-harm
Alcohol and substance abuse:
- Family history of addiction
- Low energy, bloodshot eyes, or slurred speech
- Appearing anxious, shaky, or fatigued
- Memory lapses, blackouts, or trouble concentrating
- Change in appearance or personal hygiene
- Loss of interest in favorite activities
- Arguing more with family and friends
How to handle the conversation.
The conversation may not be an easy one, but it’s an important part of the process of getting proper help. And if you see a young person who seems to be struggling but isn’t talking about it, consider initiating the conversation yourself.
KEEP THINGS CASUAL. Have the conversation in a comfortable setting such as a coffee shop, school, home, or anywhere that you can have some privacy away from distractions.
SIT BACK AND LISTEN. Once the person has said what he or she needs to say, don’t rush to judgment. But it’s OK to ask questions to get more information.
DON’T ASSUME THIS IS A NORMAL PHASE OR WILL GO AWAY. Mental health and substance abuse issues are medical problems and require treatment.
BE AWARE THE PERSON MAY BE EXPERIENCING MULTIPLE ISSUES. For example, substance abuse is often connected with depression. The person may not be aware of an underlying issue.
DON’T TRY TO SOLVE THE PROBLEM ALL AT ONCE. Remember, this is just the start of the process.
ASK THE PERSON WHAT HE OR SHE WANTS TO DO NEXT. It’s important the young person stays in control of the journey.
What you can say to encourage the conversation:
How are you feeling?
I’ve noticed you’ve been acting differently lately. Is everything OK?
If you ever need someone to talk to, I’m here for you.
I’m worried about you. Is there anything you need to talk about?
What to do after the conversation.
|Stay in touch with the young person and check in on how he or she is feeling.|
|Remind the person to make healthy lifestyle choices such as diet, exercise, and sleep.|
|Encourage and help the person find the appropriate resources.|
|Offer to go with the person to talk with parents or a mental health or substance abuse professional.|